I love my kickstands. Yes, I have them on all my commuter/touring bikes and family bikes except one. Only my mountain bike is sans kickstand. In fact I find such pleasure in my kickstand that I wish I had a double.
Once, like you, I was afraid to embrace the convenient. But now, I've made peace with a comfortable riding position, gears, fenders and a kickstand. What the Hell, I'll put a mirror on my eyeglasses! Did I mention my yellow illuminite jacket purchased on-sale from Nashbar?
These Fredishnesses are no more aesthetically objectionable than other goofy, I mean hip, trends in bikes. Riding's the cake. Why hate the frosting?
Here's a link to my favorite bike porn page. Notice the delicious single and double kickstands.